Marriage and Divorce

For Marriage and Relationship Advice, as well as Divorce Help

Marriage and Divorce

Getting Divorced in Stages
From a legal standpoint, a divorce proceeding begins when either the husband or the wife files a court document commonly called a petition. Psychologically, though, the divorce process begins much...
A Healthy Lifestyle Means a Healthy Marriage
We didn't realize the kind of toll being sedentary was taking on our relationship until we snapped out of it and decided to make some changes. It was not a pretty start, but that's exactly what we...
I Just Want to Know Why?
"There's more to getting to where you're going then just knowing there's a road."~ Joan Lowery Nixon, In the Face of Danger  I met a woman the other day whose husband recently told...
Narcissistic Personality Disorder and Gaslighting
I have been described as a free-spirit on many occasions in my life.  I've always been the happy-go-lucky one who can see the positives in every situation.  When I first met Seth, a modern...
Be Good To Yourself
It hasn't been easy, has it? You're now trying to work, run a household single-handedly, and cope with the fallout from the divorce. Every day there's a new variation on the "Why can't Daddy still...
Who's in Control Here?
Sometimes the process of divorce can leave you feeling like you are an unwilling passenger on a runaway train. Whether you initiated the process or not, once things start rolling, you can feel...
Solo Parenting: Breaking the News to Your Kids
Of all the people whom you have to tell about the impending divorce, none is more important than your kids. Above all, there are two messages it is imperative that you get across to them: 1....
Crossing Over to the After(Married)Life
When you're a divorced woman in her forties or older, the odds go down for many things. Going down is a good thing in back seats, bedrooms, and elevators. It is not such a good thing when odds go...
The Four Biggest Myths About Men
"Some men are actually very afraid of roller coasters." We women think they have men all figured out.       Many of us believe they only care about three...
Prevent And Cope With Relational Stress
I am writing while my Tablet PC is playing one of my favourite songs ever - All in Love is Fair, by Stevie Wonder. This used to be the soundtrack of a little romance featuring me and the ex-boyfriend...
Grandparents Can Help Grandchildren Cope with Parent's Divorce!
Too often, grandparents are caught in drama between parents during and after their  divorce. While they want to help in any way they can, many grandparents just don't know how to ease the hurt,...
Can Love Be Better the Second Time Around?
Yes it can! This is according to the couples that I interviewed for my book, Successful Second Marriages. What prompted a book about second marriages? The failure of my own second marriage and my...
Appreciation: A Truly Humane Art
"The difference between appreciation and flattery? That is simple. One is sincere and the other insincere. One comes from the heart out; the other from the teeth out."-- Dale Carnegie in How to Win...
Dating after Divorce - Fake It ‘Til You Make It!
Before you ever think about going on your first date post-divorce, make sure to get back on track with yourself and allow yourself time to adjust to your new single lifestyle. If you have children,...
Insanity!
"Insanity is doing the same thing, over and over again, but expecting different results." ~ Rita Mae Brown Time to vent! I'm frustrated. Actually, it's more like I'm in disbelief and amazement....
First Dates Can Be Fun (Really!)
People---especially mid-life people coming off a divorce---approach first dates with the kind of dread usually associated with public speaking or major surgery. They fear that the other person will...
Gavron Warning: What is it & What Do You Do?
Gavron warnings are Orders from the Judge that are telling you to go out and earn an income. And if you don't, they will treat your income as if you do for the purposes of calculating support/...
A No Regrets Plan for Dating After Divorce
Three Important Q's and A's Dating after divorce is a topic that comes up often in my work with parents. It can seem as though the pitfalls are endless, and the complexities with children feel...
Let the Music Move You
Music.  It is a standard in each of our lives.  Whether you listen to your headphones at the gym or sing out loud in the car, music is always somehow there.  Music and melody have...
4 Things That Will Pronounce a Relationship D.E.A.D.
I want to know why we're not required to take classes in relationships! We must learn the periodic table, the algebraic steps to figure out what 'x' equals, and dissect a frog; we can learn woodshop...