Why Couples Won't Seek Help for Infertility - Part 3

Why Couples Won't Seek Help for Infertility - Part 3

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There are many reasons why women and men do not seek help for infertility when struggling to start a family. Research found that women ages 32-38 year olds with infertility have many reasons for moving forward with treatment. Most commonly, these couples are unaware of what their options for treatment really are and how accessible the care has become. These "Barriers to Action" include lack of information, emotional support and stressors, religion, cost and time that go along with fertility treatments which I touched upon in previous posts. Below I have more on timing and a synopsis on general information that relate to timing to help break down these barriers that contribute to infertility/treatment.


  • Many may need time to accept that they may not conceive on own timeline: Many seek treatment and expect pregnancy to happen instantly. In most cases, this does not happen. Based on your own specific needs you and your doctor will set goals to conceive.
  • Will not seek treatment until emotionally ready to do so: This does require time and each couple can work with their physician to determine emotional needs and when they are best fit for treatment.


  • Many are not aware they could see a specialist at this time in their process: When struggling to conceive most don't know when the "right" time is to see a specialist. Women ages 34 and younger should seek help from a specialist if they are unable to get pregnant after 12 months. Women ages 35 and older should seek help from a specialist if they cannot conceive within 6 months.
  • Increased risk of multiple births: When multiple embryos are transferred your chances of twins is only 25% and with triplets only seen in 2-3% of pregnancies.
  • MD or OB/GYN did not suggest seeking an infertility specialist soon enough: This can commonly happen. If you have questions, a family history of infertility or feel something is not right ask your physician right away.
  • Lack of knowledge about treatment - thought IVF was the only option: IVF is commonly thought to be the only option for women when there are multiple treatments that can be done in place of that or that may just fit your needs better.

These barriers to action are all individualized to each couple and person when trying to conceive. Make sure you consult your physician and fertility doctor before making any final discussions on your fertility and family planning as new options, treatments and hope are available each and every day.

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Dr. Jane Frederick, M.D. at HRC Fertility More Articles By This Author

Dr. Jane Frederick is a leading Reproductive Endocrinologist at HRC Fertility in Newport Beach, CA. To find out more about her visit havingbabies.com/about-hrc/staff/jane-l-frederick/ or OrangeCountyFertilitydr.com

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